Anatomy of Intimacy 2010

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Anatomy of Intimacy 2010
Saturday, November 13, 2010 9:00 AM -
Sunday, November 14, 2010 5:00 PM (Pacific Time)

UCI Student Center, Crystal Cove Auditorium
Pereira Drive & W. Peltason Drive
University of California, Irvine
Irvine, 92617
United States

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Sexuality & Couples Therapy:
Integrating Eroticism & Intimacy

Helen Fisher      Susan Johnson      Barry McCarthy   
Pepper Schwartz           Stan Tatkin

This conference brings together a stellar group of experts on sexuality, offering two intense days of stimulating, thought-provoking presentations along with practical clinical skills on directly addressing sexuality in couples therapy. When people develop intimate bonds, they connect through attraction, desire and the arousal of love. In marriage, sexuality can be a gold mine or a minefield. Good sex can provide a special glue to reinforce intimacy, while bad or nonexistent sex can completely drain a marriage of vitality. The challenge for all couples is to integrate intimacy and eroticism into an ongoing relationship.
Sexual interest and behaviors are remarkably varied, raising the issue of what are common variations of normal development and what is dysfunctional. Why is low sexual desire the most common sexual complaint today? Why do some people bond sexually with one partner, while others feel driven to desire many partners? More importantly, how can couples therapy best assist partners in achieving the level of closeness and sexuality that fit their unique needs?
Couples therapy often helps develop a more secure connection and improvement in the overall relationship. However, these positive changes may occur without translating into better sex in the relationship. It is important to learn how to best focus directly on sexuality in treatment for maximum impact.
The renowned faculty has been chosen for their expertise in couples therapy and the neurobiology of love and sexuality. Presenters will describe ways to assess and treat key issues related to sexuality and provide targeted strategies that therapists can use with couples that are having sexual difficulties. The changing cultural landscape in dating and mating rituals brought about by the upsurge in online matching services will be defined. We will also look at the physiological and neurobiological underpinnings of sexual desire, as well as what causes sexuality to wane in long-term relationships. Please join us in November, 2010.
Learning Objectives: Those attending this conference will be able to:
• Examine key ways to address sexuality directly in couples therapy
• Describe what drives sexual desire & treatment methods to rekindle low desire & enhance eroticism
• Explain differences in sexuality & romantic connections in the 21st century
• Compare how the brain responds in unloving & loving relationships.
• Recognize how EFT helps to solidify the attachment bonds & enhance the bonds between sexual partners
• Assess a couple’s sexual style & how it affects desire
• Identify attachment models that affect libido
• Clarify 4 very broad personality dimensions associated with the brain systems
• Recognize treatment implications for sexual relationships for those in late middle age and beyond

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Introduction: Judith Anderson, Ph.D.
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.
Dating, Mating & Sex in the 21st Century: From Teens to Baby Boomers
This presentation provides an overall look at the 21st century American sexual and romantic landscape from young adulthood to the aging Baby Boomers. Internationally renowned sociologist Pepper Schwartz summarizes relevant research data on young adults, discussing the complexities of casual sex and intimacy in modern relationships. She further explores online dating, from her role as key consultant to, sharing  the good news and bad news about it, including how it may be changing American romance, marriage and fidelity. She will also discuss baby boomers entering late middle age and beyond, looking at their sexual patterns through the lens of the 2009 AARP national study.
Susan Johnson, Ed.D.
Sex & Attachment: An EFT Approach to Treatment
Dr. Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), describes sexual functioning in the context of love as an attachment bond. She discusses research on sexuality and attachment as the emotional connection which defines the relationship in bed as well as out. Dr. Johnson posits that in healthy sex, there is an integration of attachment, sex and caregiving, with emotional presence and trust as significant aphrodisiacs. Sex as intimate play is at its best when there is secure attachment that provides a safe haven where excitement plus comfort, surrenders to sensation. Finally, Dr. Johnson outlines an attachment view of sexuality and the ways in which an EFT therapist directly addresses sexual issues with clinical videotape examples.
Barry McCarthy, Ph.D.
Finding the Chemistry: Creating Vital Sexual Styles in Long-Term Relationships
The most common problems facing American couples—of all age groups, straight or gay, married or unmarried—are inhibited sexual desire and discrepancy of sexual desire. Unfortunately, many “remedies,” such as sharing sex fantasies, being verbally explicit during sex, or using porn videos, just make the problem worse, adding embarrassment and hopelessness to an unhappy situation. In this presentation, Dr. McCarthy, expert sexologist and psychologist, will discuss how committed couples can identify the sexual style that works best for them—complementary, traditional, best friends, and emotionally expressive. He will then explore in detail how to help couples find sexual strategies that are congruent with their own preferred style, work with the specific vulnerabilities of each style that can subvert sexual desire, and identify different modes of arousal suited to different couples. He offers thought-provoking ideas as to the flaws in using either traditional couples or sex therapy alone, proposing an integrative psychobiosocial model of sexuality based on new data.

Panel Dialogue: What New Research Tells Us About Effective Treatment Methods
Moderated by Judith Zucker Anderson, Ph.D. and Marion F. Solomon, Ph.D.
Faculty: Drs. Schwartz, Johnson, McCarthy, Tatkin, and Fisher

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Introduction: Marion Solomon, Ph.D.
Helen Fisher, Ph.D.
The Drive to Love & Who You Choose: The Neurobiology of Desire
What makes us love? What makes us fall out of love? Why do we fall in love with one person rather than another? Dr. Helen Fisher, one of the world’s leading experts on love, examines the evolutionary, biological and neurological underpinnings of mating and reproduction. She discusses primary brain systems for sex drive, romantic love and attachment. She suggests methods to effectively “reach” a partner based on what is known about the biology of personality, including four very broad personality dimensions associated with the brain systems, (dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen/oxytocin). Dr. Fisher’s ground-breaking brain scanning research on couples newly in love, those rejected in love and in long-term relationships, reveal the brain circuitry associated with such seemingly unquantifiable states as romantic love and long-term bonding.  She reports also on research data from 40,000 men and women, and clarifies why some types match up well, whereas other “love” relationships are problematic. Her presentation provides important information for understanding love relations of our patients, and of ourselves.
Stan Tatkin, Psy.D.
Have Your Cake & Eat it Too: Sexual Vitality & Secure Functioning
Distressed couples come into therapy when their repeated interactions create intense states of unpleasant emotional arousal that affects the nervous system—they literally “get on each other’s nerves” and experience a threat response in the presence of the other. Sex presents one of the most daunting arenas of couple interaction where insecure attachment and experience of the near senses (smell, taste, touch, and vision) can lead to mutual dysregulation. This presentation offers an approach to couples therapy based on principles of attachment, developmental neuroscience, autonomic nervous system arousal, and therapeutic enactment. Dr. Tatkin will discuss how to penetrate beneath the level of a couple’s narrative and into the fast-moving, implicit, and mostly non-conscious level of interpersonal neurobiology. You will learn how to dissect sexual complaints and identify attachment models and neurobiological deficits that get in the way of libido, arousal and performance. Through lecture and video case examples, this talk will present methods of assessing, predicting, and treating sexual issues from a psychobiological perspective.

Panel Dialogue: Integrating Couples & Sex Therapy
Moderated by Judith Zucker Anderson, Ph.D. and Marion F. Solomon, Ph.D.
Faculty: Drs. Schwartz, Johnson, McCarthy, Tatkin, and Fisher


Contact Information

  • Phone: 949-464-0131

Payment Instructions

  • Early Registration (through October 15, 2010): $295
    Regular Registration: $325

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